Therefore, the goal of marriage is Christ, the Kingdom of God; and the members of one flesh – the couple, husband, and wife – companions, co-travelers to Happiness (acquiring the Holy Spirit)! Entering into marriage, we choose a companion, which necessarily presupposes a common Goal, Meaning, and Image of Life! Therefore, Christians can marry only in the Lord, only with Christians (a common and only goal – Christ!)! The marriage of a Christian with those of other faiths (heretics of various degrees of remoteness from the Truth), pagans (Muslims, Jews, Hindus…) or atheists – this is absurd and madness (different goals, different happiness – incompatible! And marriage is a movement towards a common goal)! (The apostle allowed those who became Christians while being married to a pagan not to divorce if possible; but those already in the Church – to marry only in the Lord – with Christians!)64.
So, the goal of life is to acquire Love (= Happiness). Accordingly, the goal of marriage, as a means to achieve the goal, is to acquire Love, to learn to Love (= to accept Love)! And love is unthinkable without humility, more precisely, love is the fruit of humility (it is given to the humble)! Schematically, the spiritual growth of a couple in marriage can be described as follows. The husband and wife must acquire humility and love, which are crowned by God with the Love of the Holy Spirit. Two complete egoists enter into marriage, but by definition (by masculinity) the husband has more love (action, giving) than humility, and the wife has more humility by definition (by femininity) than love. (The husband naturally gives seed, shows action, offers, and the wife naturally receives, humbly waits, obediently brings forth the fruit of the seed sown by the husband – gives birth, gives life – like the earth; gratefully returns to the husband the fruit she nurtured from his seed; the husband humbly accepts the grateful fruit of the wife and again gives-sows…). To give = love, to receive = humility. The husband gives (with love) – the wife receives (with humility), the wife brings forth the fruit of the seed and gives (with love) to the husband, who receives (with humility) – the cycle closes: love (h) – humility (w) – love (w) – humility (h) – love (h)… So, in married life, the husband and wife, each of them, must become humble love (in the husband and wife, love and humility must equalize-merge). This cycle must be properly and naturally initiated: the wife must accept from the husband (to whom she has responsibly given herself in marriage) everything he offers, no matter how imperfectly – let her accept with humility and gratitude and everything she can nurture from this seed-gift, bring forth fruit and return-gift it with reciprocity and gratitude to the husband, who (if there is humility and obedience in the wife) will accept the fruit of his “seed” with humility and gratitude, and will be inspired to give more and better (the gratitude and humility of the one who receives the gift encourages the giver to give a hundredfold more!), which the wife must accept with humility and obedience and gift the nurtured fruit to the husband… It seems so simple – humble yourself, and in a short time, you will be in paradise, but…
The catastrophe of marriages – men lack love (= responsibility, decisiveness, initiative, action…), and women lack humility (meekness, obedience…)! Nowadays, men and women have renounced their nature – masculinity and femininity. Femininity is to humbly accept the seed-logos and give it life, while masculinity is to give the seed, to be the head of the body-nature. A woman is synonymous with humility, nature-earth (the earth humbly accepts everything that is put into it and gives life to everything that can bear fruit, while it decomposes everything else into fertilizer or lets it rot) by definition of femininity (one who receives, not gives; one who does not show initiative, action, but humbly waits; the norm of femininity is the Mother of God – see below). If the earth (woman) shows initiative, it means tectonic shifts, volcanic eruptions, earthquakes, tsunamis… – it is a catastrophe, the scale of which depends on the intensity and duration of the initiative! Now “humble woman” (= feminine woman) sounds absurd!? In the “progressive” society, the concept of “humble, obedient woman” sounds like some kind of mockery of women!? This satanic feminism will ultimately destroy (if it hasn’t already!) the institution of marriage! Today in marriage, in the family, the woman is already the “head,” “mistress” – she commands, gives orders, directs the husband, gives the “seed-logos,” which the husband must embody, “conceive,” give life to, execute, like a slave, the ideas-fantasies of the woman!? Everything is upside down – everything is unnatural! Catastrophe (change of nature)! What kind of marriage do you want to talk about?! What happiness?!
Woe to that woman whose husband “humbles” himself faster than she does (who humbles her husband, puts him under her feet, becomes his mistress…), woe to her, and woe to him – woe to them both, for they are in hell and will not come out of there until they repent: the woman will not humble herself and begin to obey her husband, and he will not take responsibility! Why do we speak first about the woman and then about the man? Because if the woman is humble, even the worst good-for-nothing, the last rag (doormat) will become a man, a responsible husband beside her (yes, years, decades will pass – the Kingdom of God is taken by force, and whoever endures to the end will be saved!). And if the woman is not humble, no one will please her – complaints, dissatisfaction with everything, self-justification will make even the most responsible man a desperate failure… Now women cannot even dream that they should humble themselves! They have rights, they are equal to men – they are not “behind” the husband, they stand at least “beside” (and not “behind”) the man (or rather: the man stands beside her – she is the main one, she is in the center), like an equal democratic business partner! Now there are (almost) no marriages, because marriage is the union of a man and a woman into one flesh on the path to happiness! And there are no men (only irresponsible rags or cynical despots), and there are no women (only proud feminists or prostitutes)! That is why we have a sad picture of modern Sodom and Gomorrah, whose inhabitants do not even suspect that judgment is already prepared for them, the fire is ready to pour out on this godless earthly flesh – but God is still postponing this judgment, enduring, waiting (with faith in man) for people’s repentance so that as many people as possible can be saved (in this second form of existence)!